Psyc Discussion = Reality

It occurred to me that my Psych class is way too relevant for my own comfort.

We had a lecture, as we always do, and our Professor got on the subject (once again) of the differences between men and woman, especially those that he has seen in his marriage counseling career. What he described is that men something (more often than not) will enter a relationship with only half their available emotions, while a woman will usually be fully developed in the area. As in a simple math question, you have to have 1 x 1 to equal the whole 1 that people are looking for in a successful relationship. But if you only have 1/2 x 1, the equation comes out not quite to the answer that all parties want, and it ends up being lopsided. Women have the natural need and want to make things better, so they start giving in and giving more and more emotion until they gradually begin to burn out, losing more and more percentages of their full %100 emotion. So, as that begins to dwindle, the man starts seeing that there's something in the relationship that is different and wrong, and begins to panic and/or withdraw. So even though the woman gave her all and more, because the man didn't, he will usually back out, putting the blame on a change in relationship on the woman.

Completely true, I believe. I don't think we can blame the emotional available-ness of men on them, but rather their surroundings and past experiences. But to me, it explains why guys are so much more apt to move on quicker, considering they begin to see sooner than later that things are going down hill, and why shouldn't they? They haven't changed their actions in the relationship at all -- it's just the burning out of the woman by over loving/compensating.

Oh well.

Damn psych class, stop making sense.